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I want to be that mother who can stand up and say I am a strong confident mother and I know what is best for my children. We breastfeed and co sleep, We listen, We include, We eat chocolate and snot smoothies, we trampoline and grow frogs, we sling, we carry and we try and understand and work with our children without resorting to punishments, threats or coercion.

Sunday 16 January 2011

'First They Came For' the breastfeeders, then the protesters.

My name is Miriam and I am a lactivist.  At the moment it could be akin to admitting alcoholism, except people seem to have more sympathy for alcoholics than for someone trying to normalise breastfeeding.  We have been called every name under the sun, accused of making mothers feel guilty for not breastfeeding,  demonizing companies for not supporting breastfeeding and creating a culture of them and us.

In reality though, we are merely trying to make available the resources and advice that women NEED in order to have a supportive and encouraging breastfeeding relationship with their baby. We tend to forget that breastfeeding is normal:

We must not let inverted phrasing by the media and by our peers go unchallenged. When we fail to describe the hazards of artificial feeding, we deprive mothers of crucial decision-making information. The mother having difficulty with breastfeeding may not seek help just to achieve a "special bonus;" but she may clamour for help if she knows how much she and her baby stand to lose. She is less likely to use artificial milk just "to get him used to a bottle" if she knows that the contents of that bottle cause harm.” Diane Wiessinger Watch Your Language Reprinted from the Journal of Human Lactation, Vol. 12, No. 1, 1996

The whole complete facebook company does not like breastfeeding , is that really possible that a whole entire company does not advocate and accept that breastfeeding is a normal nurturing imperative  for  the health and well being of babies?   Is that really why they removed my account? .Is that why they removed some of my breastfeeding pictures? Is that why they have with little or no regard for the content. Do they really believe that breastfeeding pictures are pornographic or sexually suggestive.  If it is nudity they are concerned about, (if there is a nipple, it's deemed nudity), surely there are other pages out there that have FAR more nudity than my two bumps, which rarely have nipple showing, because it is usually in my babies mouth. 

I, as well as many of my peers, am basically trying to show that breastfeeding is not something to be afraid of.  It is not some higher unattainable nirvana, its normal. The more people that see pictures of breastfeeding and feel inspired or less nervous about feeding their own baby, the more babies are being given what they are biologically pre-disposed to have, human milk for human babies.

This is the other issue with accounts being disabled that is not given consideration, in this insular society we live in, when my account was disabled I lost my main support system of like minded friends and this is actually more than just loss of a fun network site, because as a mother of two toddlers trying to raise my children in a conscious gentle way, some days it can be a life saving sanity site.

Next Saturday 22nd January 2011, there is a world wide protest on facebook, whereby people are going to log off facebook for an entire day, to protest about mothers accounts being disabled and pictures being deleted and support groups being removed.  Will you support this protest group

This is a page called Removed- The List  it is an to index current links to "Bring Back..." groups/pages. Groups/pages and personal profiles that were deleted from Facebook for sharing videos and/or pictures which includes Birthing, Breastfeeding, Elimination Communication and Circumcision. 


**UPDATE**
2012 Virtual Nurse In: http://www.facebook.com/events/223438821070846/

2012 Protest 6th February Worldwide Locations: http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=324817760874621




Tuesday 4 January 2011

support disabled

The whole complete facebook company does not like breastfeeding , is that really possible that a whole entire company does not advocate and accept that breastfeeding is a normal nurturing imperative  for  the health and well being of babies?   Is that really why they removed my account?  Do they really believe that breastfeeding pictures  are pornographic, sexually suggestive, or contains nudity.  If 'contains nudity' (if there is a nipple, it's nudity) is really an offence on facebook, surely there are other pages, well come on we KNOW there are other pages out there that have FAR more nudity than my two bumps.  

Its not against the law to discriminate against breastfeeding pictures,  because they are not a public authority, the law does not apply to them.  Facebook are lawless when it comes to breastfeeding.  Should the acceptance of breastfeeding be made law? 'You will accept breastfeeding pictures or you will be put in jail.'  It’s being done to some extent, right now in Indonesia.  Are we that far down the road to detrimental health and well being of our children that we need to do this too? 

Of course not, but there is no denying that the emotional and physical health and well being of our society is not exactly optimum.  You need only look at the hundreds of get healthy, feel better, sort out your life, deal with your emotions, talk about your feelings, fix your head, get fit, eat healthy, be healthy, stop dying early programs that are out there.  So it really makes sense when an answer is staring people in the face, the unequivocal research and statistics and studies.  Breastfeeding does things, course it does, otherwise why would the human body do it, and do it so brilliantly and do it exactly at the point when your baby is born.  

Makes sense really, when you think about it.  Breastfeeding contributes to a whole gamut of beneficialness for mother and baby. There is no denying the emotional bonding effectiveness of breastfeeding either. 

Its all been proven...many many times. *yawn* . Heard it all before, some people just refuse to listen. *shrug* what can I do? Carry on with what I am doing, I suppose.  


The other issue here is that I have lost my main support system of like minded friends and as a mother of two toddlers trying to raise my children in a conscious gentle way, they are actually more than just support, way more.  Meanwhile the MAJOR breastfeeding support group The Leaky Boob has also been deleted, show your support here 

Of course it is possible its for another reason...it could be the bare flesh *shock* *horror*...don't you just love our society that has people who are so *fucked* up and far gone that they need to get their pleasure this way. But that's a whole nother issue.


Meltdowns - BF helps
Losing the Plot - BF helps
Breastfeeding - YES.  It does exactly what its for and much much more.


**UPDATE**
2012 Virtual Nurse In: http://www.facebook.com/events/223438821070846/

2012 Protest 6th February Worldwide Locations: http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=324817760874621